Add settings to remote servers, use XDG paths on remote, and enable node LSPs (#19176)

Supersedes https://github.com/zed-industries/zed/pull/19166

TODO:
- [x] Update basic zed paths
- [x] update create_state_directory
- [x] Use this with `NodeRuntime`
- [x] Add server settings
- [x] Add an 'open server settings command'
- [x] Make sure it all works


Release Notes:

- Updated the actions `zed::OpenLocalSettings` and `zed::OpenLocalTasks`
to `zed::OpenProjectSettings` and `zed::OpenProjectTasks`.

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Co-authored-by: Conrad <conrad@zed.dev>
Co-authored-by: Richard <richard@zed.dev>

assets/settings/initial_server_settings.json

@@ -0,0 +1,7 @@
+// Server-specific settings
+//
+// For a full list of overridable settings, and general information on settings,
+// see the documentation: https://zed.dev/docs/configuring-zed#settings-files
+{
+  "lsp": {}
+}