Add settings to remote servers, use XDG paths on remote, and enable node LSPs (#19176)

Supersedes https://github.com/zed-industries/zed/pull/19166

TODO:
- [x] Update basic zed paths
- [x] update create_state_directory
- [x] Use this with `NodeRuntime`
- [x] Add server settings
- [x] Add an 'open server settings command'
- [x] Make sure it all works


Release Notes:

- Updated the actions `zed::OpenLocalSettings` and `zed::OpenLocalTasks`
to `zed::OpenProjectSettings` and `zed::OpenProjectTasks`.

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Co-authored-by: Conrad <conrad@zed.dev>
Co-authored-by: Richard <richard@zed.dev>

Cargo.lock

@@ -8977,6 +8977,7 @@ dependencies = [
  "log",
  "menu",
  "ordered-float 2.10.1",
+ "paths",
  "picker",
  "project",
  "release_channel",
@@ -9136,6 +9137,7 @@ name = "remote_server"
 version = "0.1.0"
 dependencies = [
  "anyhow",
+ "async-watch",
  "backtrace",
  "cargo_toml",
  "clap",
@@ -9151,8 +9153,10 @@ dependencies = [
  "log",
  "lsp",
  "node_runtime",
+ "paths",
  "project",
  "remote",
+ "reqwest_client",
  "rpc",
  "rust-embed",
  "serde",